I was running on Thursday night, not knowing what to expect at our geneticist appointment the following afternoon and the Dave Matthews Band song, “You Never Know” came on.
“There’s not a moment to lose in the game
Don’t let the troubles in your head
Steal too much time you’ll soon be dead.”
I’ve spent the last month and a half worried. Really, really worried. And through this fog of worry, I haven’t really been enjoying my child, enjoying my life. And so then on the treadmill, I decided that whatever happens the next day, I needed to enjoy each moment. Or at least some of them. I blinked my eyes and he was almost 6 months old. I’ll blink again and he’ll be 6. Then 16. Then 26.
I had no idea what to expect at this appointment. So in case you ever find yourself in the same situation (cause I’m sure lots of you have a pediatrician that thinks your child could have a genetic syndrome, though it did happen on Teen Mom 2), this is what went down.
Most surprising to me, Emory Genetics wasn’t on the Emory campus. Instead, it was in a random building next to a Publix. We filled out some paperwork and then went into a room where a nurse (or tech maybe?) weighed Alexander, took his head size and his height and took a couple of pictures of him.
Then, we went into an exam room where a genetic counselor came in. (It was actually a genetic counselor and an intern and the intern did all of the talking.) She just basically asked us some questions about why we were there and our backgrounds.
Then the doctor came in. One of the first things he said was, “He does not have Smith-Lemli-Opitz Syndrome. I can tell you that.” The two major things that our pediatrican was concerned with, aside from Alexander’s slow growth, were his slight syndactyly (webbing) of his second and third toes and that his nipples were far apart. The geneticist measured his nipple distance and said it was on the borderline of normal and far apart. He did not seemed concerned whatsoever about his toes. He was basically just like, “Some people have that.” FYI, I have that, though it’s not as noticeable.
He basically looked him up and down and held him and stuff and said the best thing he could have ever said to us, “I don’t see any reason to do any further testing.”
“Out of the darkness comes light like a flash.”